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December 3, 2016

Sleeping Babes

I looked at my toddler today, snoozing in his car seat after some errands, and thought what every parent thinks at such times: How does he sleep with his neck at that crazy angle?? And then I also thought, as I frequently do, he’s so precious when he sleeps. He is one of the cutest children ever to […]

Fostering, Parenting

February 4, 2016

Happy Birthday, Mr. Smiles

There is this wonderful little person who snuck his way into our lives while our thoughts were very occupied with other things.  Although we had a lot on our plates at the time, and although foster care forces you into an acceptance of the fact that you can’t know the future, we still felt like […]

Featured, Fostering, Parenting

October 15, 2015

Compassion Is Not My Superpower

Last Wednesday I dropped Jack-Jack off at his class at church while I was involved in our women’s ministry.  Except it wasn’t his class — it was a NEW class, because he’s three now — and he wasn’t having it.  He saw our arrival at this different class as an act of betrayal, and, being […]

Family, Featured, Fostering, General, Parenting

September 2, 2015

All The Things We Never Say

I have read maybe a hundred lists.  The lists people post just to inform everyone else in the world, to make sure we’re not committing serious faux pas against each other.  “10 Things to Never say to Adoptive Parents,” “The 7 Questions Every Foster Parent Hates to Answer,” “5 Gifts No Teacher Wants to Get,” […]

Fostering, Parenting

August 29, 2015

Mr. Smiles

There’s something about babies.  It’s not just their own cuteness–their soft skin and nice smell and the way they look so squeezable in jammies.  Babies do something to the people around them.  They make stress lines melt away from preoccupied faces, they put a ceasefire on arguments, they elicit a smile from someone who’s down. […]

Fostering, Parenting

August 12, 2015


I was recently talking to a gal I’d just met, and she asked me if our girl gets along well with all the boys.  “Yeeeeessss…?” I responded.  She didn’t seem to detect the hesitation in my voice, and she smiled and said “oh, that’s good.”  So sweet, so earnest, so very much how I used […]

Family, Fostering, Parenting

July 22, 2015

Mystery Underwear

There is a piece of underwear in my living room, and it has been there for upwards of two weeks. It’s a little boy’s underwear, with Avengers characters all over it, and it doesn’t belong to any of my kids. I have no idea who it belongs to. A little over a week ago, I […]

Family, Fostering, Parenting

July 3, 2015


There was a while during which I seriously wondered whether our decision to foster had forever changed my second oldest son, and not for the better. I avoid names except for Todd’s and mine here on this blog, but since I’ll be talking about him quite a bit in this post, let’s call him Maverick. […]

Featured, Fostering, General, Parenting

May 1, 2015

Loveless Cookies

When we were preparing to foster, I thought happily of all the baking therapy that would take place in our home. My love language is baked goods (that’s the sixth love language, the book doesn’t talk about it for some reason), and I planned to show our child love primarily through chocolate chip cookies.  I […]

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